my best friend gave me the best advice
He said 'each day's a gift and not a given right'
leave no stone unturned. leave your fears behind
And try to take the path less traveled by
That first step you take is longest stride
(what if, what if) if today was your last day
and tomorrow was too late, could you say goodbye to yesterday?
would you live each moment like your last? leave old pictures in the past
donate every dime you had ?
if today was your last day
against the grain should be a way of life
what's worth the price is always worth the fight
every second counts 'cause there's no second try
so live it like you're never living twice
don't take the free ride in your own life
would you call those friends you never see?
Reminisce old memories? would you forgive your enemies?
would you find that one you're dreaming of ? swear up and and down to God above
that you'd finally fall in love ?
if today was your last day
would you make your mark by mending a broken heart?
you know it's never too late to shoot for the stars regardless of who you are.
so do whatever it takes 'cause you can't rewind a moment in this life.
Let nothing stand in your way 'cause the hands of time are never on your side.
Monday, October 18, 2010
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Kau Pencuri Hatiku!
Seperti banyaknya manusia di bumi, begitupun banyaknya cinta dihatiku ini,
setiap kali wanita yang datang mendekat, akupun balas mendekat,
namun entah mengapa hati ini selalu terarah kepadamu,
andaikan kau tahu sudah berapa byk wanita yg kutolak,
hanya karena menunggu dirimu yg tidak memberi tanggapan,
kau diam seribu bahasa membuat diriku bingung,
setiap kali ku-menolak wanita karena aku tahu engkaulah wanitaku,
namun aku bingung sampai berapa lama aku harus menolak wanita untuk mendapatkanmu,
padahal aku baru mengenal rupamu, namun engkau sudah mencuri hatiku!!
ya kamu telah mencuri hatiku !! kumohon izinkanku untuk menjagamu seumur hidupku =)
inspired by Ms S
setiap kali wanita yang datang mendekat, akupun balas mendekat,
namun entah mengapa hati ini selalu terarah kepadamu,
andaikan kau tahu sudah berapa byk wanita yg kutolak,
hanya karena menunggu dirimu yg tidak memberi tanggapan,
kau diam seribu bahasa membuat diriku bingung,
setiap kali ku-menolak wanita karena aku tahu engkaulah wanitaku,
namun aku bingung sampai berapa lama aku harus menolak wanita untuk mendapatkanmu,
padahal aku baru mengenal rupamu, namun engkau sudah mencuri hatiku!!
ya kamu telah mencuri hatiku !! kumohon izinkanku untuk menjagamu seumur hidupku =)
inspired by Ms S
waiting a Boaz (soulmate)
Just read a book of “ A Man worth waiting for”
1. A boaz respects you
In the third chapter of this love story, Ruth approached Boaz with the request that he become her kinsman-redeemer. This was not the bold move of an impatient single woman. This was a request guided by Naomi, who understood the legal obligations of family based on Deuteronomy 25:5-10.
Boaz was surprised and pleased by Ruth’s request. His godly character and respect show in his reply to her request : “the Lord bless you, my daugehter… I will do for you all you ask” (Ruth 3:10-11)
In short, this exchange tells us that if a man won’t speak and act respectfully toward you, he’s a Bozo.
2. A Boaz respects the Law
Boaz obeyed the law God gave in Deuteronomy. He didn’t grab what wasn’t his, he wasn’t sneaky. Instead he openly respected the law and his relative. And he won the bride!
3. A Boaz will handle your “baggage” with care
Boaz as the kinsman-redeemer was not only willing to buy the land that had belonged to Ruth’s dead husband, but he was also willing to honor the name of the dead husband when he married Ruth. The cost, financially and emotionally, did not cause Boaz to hesitate, Ruth 4 reveals that another relative was a close kinsman. But this relative was not willing to accept the “baggage” that came with marrying Ruth-therefore, Boaz was granted the privilege of being Ruth’s Kinsman-redeemer.
Remember, Ruth was a moabitess, a member of Israel’s enemy tribe. Boaz enthusiastically married a woman from the wrong side of the tracks who had financial and emotional needs.
Of course, all women bring needs into a marriage. When it comes to God’s best for a woman, it involves so much more than just a great guy. A man worth waiting for is a man who can handle your particular baggage.
For example, my Boaz had to handle the “ baggage” I brought to our marriage : the impact of a very dysfunctional family and sexual abuse. Not just any man could handle such heave “ luggage”. God knew the man who had enough faith to patiently love me while Jesus and I sorted through my past emotional and physical wounds.
Boaz was a symbol of Jesus as our ultimate Kinsman-Redeemer, who brought us back from the enemy of our souls.
Jesus like a Boaz, can handle the baggage of our lives and He alone knows the best man to handle all of our wounds without becoming bitter or resentful.
4. A Boaz notices more than just beauty
We see that boaz noticed Ruth among all the harvesters and those who gleaned after the harvesters. We don’t know how many people that entailed, but we know she stood out. The bible tells us she was known for more than her looks; remember how he said, “all my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character” (Ruth 3:11)?
When one boaz, a guy named Ben, first noticed an attractive single girl they were sitting at their local singles’ meeting.
He saw that she was nodding as they listened to a great speaker. This boaz said to his roommates who were at the bible study with him.
“I bet that girl is a P-31 (code for a Proverbs 31 woman)” and they asked “how can you tell?” He replied “I have noticed that she nods when the speakers makes some deeper remarks. Her nods showed she was tracking with him and really hungry for the truth. “Later, he discovered that this P-31 woman’s name was, ironically, Ruth.
During their first lengthy phone call, they told each other their life stories. As Ruth was sharing what she does and her passion to teach young people to choose the best by staying pure sexually. Ben realized that he needed to share with Ruth about his mom’s ministry. So, in the middle of the conversation, Ben blurted out “ you need to meet my mom! You have the same vision and passion.”
Ben recognized the heart of his own mom in a young woman. Consequently. I met Ruth and she ended up with me in a speaking ministry with Virtuous Reality. A modern Ruth was discovered by the son of a woman who wrote a book about Ruth ( Lady in waiting )! Ruth had never read my book, which totally shocked Ben, because Ruth lived the very principles that I wrote about.
A woman declares her heart even through a simple nod during a bible study. She also declares her heart when she shares what she is passionate about. To a boaz, a passionate heart is captivating in the way that a low-cut blouse is captivating to a Bozo! Boazes look for more than looks.
A side note: Most people are aware of the chapter in proverbs that describes the ideal womamn-the one my son referred to the chapter says, “ a wife of noble character wo can find? She is worth far more than rubies” (Prov 31:10). When I Started thinking about the ideal husband/man. I thought the description should start this way : “who can find a virtuous man? His price is far above diamonds!”
The Word of God has one chapter describing the virtuous woman- Proverbs 31- but I wonder if the preceding thirty
Chapters of proverbs do not describe the virtuous man. We could call the man worth waiting for a “proverbs 1-30 man.
Let’s look at him more closely next.
Discussion questions
1. How did you feel as you read Ruth’s story? How did you feel when you “met” boaz for the 1st time ? how does their story affect you today ?
2. What are your favorite qualities that a Boaz would embody?
3. Discuss the idea of a man’s handling a woman’s “baggage”. Is this an unrealistic expectation? Do you have any baggage ?
4. List a few verses from Proverbs that describe and ideal man
5. what encourages you to hold out for a Boaz?
1. A boaz respects you
In the third chapter of this love story, Ruth approached Boaz with the request that he become her kinsman-redeemer. This was not the bold move of an impatient single woman. This was a request guided by Naomi, who understood the legal obligations of family based on Deuteronomy 25:5-10.
Boaz was surprised and pleased by Ruth’s request. His godly character and respect show in his reply to her request : “the Lord bless you, my daugehter… I will do for you all you ask” (Ruth 3:10-11)
In short, this exchange tells us that if a man won’t speak and act respectfully toward you, he’s a Bozo.
2. A Boaz respects the Law
Boaz obeyed the law God gave in Deuteronomy. He didn’t grab what wasn’t his, he wasn’t sneaky. Instead he openly respected the law and his relative. And he won the bride!
3. A Boaz will handle your “baggage” with care
Boaz as the kinsman-redeemer was not only willing to buy the land that had belonged to Ruth’s dead husband, but he was also willing to honor the name of the dead husband when he married Ruth. The cost, financially and emotionally, did not cause Boaz to hesitate, Ruth 4 reveals that another relative was a close kinsman. But this relative was not willing to accept the “baggage” that came with marrying Ruth-therefore, Boaz was granted the privilege of being Ruth’s Kinsman-redeemer.
Remember, Ruth was a moabitess, a member of Israel’s enemy tribe. Boaz enthusiastically married a woman from the wrong side of the tracks who had financial and emotional needs.
Of course, all women bring needs into a marriage. When it comes to God’s best for a woman, it involves so much more than just a great guy. A man worth waiting for is a man who can handle your particular baggage.
For example, my Boaz had to handle the “ baggage” I brought to our marriage : the impact of a very dysfunctional family and sexual abuse. Not just any man could handle such heave “ luggage”. God knew the man who had enough faith to patiently love me while Jesus and I sorted through my past emotional and physical wounds.
Boaz was a symbol of Jesus as our ultimate Kinsman-Redeemer, who brought us back from the enemy of our souls.
Jesus like a Boaz, can handle the baggage of our lives and He alone knows the best man to handle all of our wounds without becoming bitter or resentful.
4. A Boaz notices more than just beauty
We see that boaz noticed Ruth among all the harvesters and those who gleaned after the harvesters. We don’t know how many people that entailed, but we know she stood out. The bible tells us she was known for more than her looks; remember how he said, “all my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character” (Ruth 3:11)?
When one boaz, a guy named Ben, first noticed an attractive single girl they were sitting at their local singles’ meeting.
He saw that she was nodding as they listened to a great speaker. This boaz said to his roommates who were at the bible study with him.
“I bet that girl is a P-31 (code for a Proverbs 31 woman)” and they asked “how can you tell?” He replied “I have noticed that she nods when the speakers makes some deeper remarks. Her nods showed she was tracking with him and really hungry for the truth. “Later, he discovered that this P-31 woman’s name was, ironically, Ruth.
During their first lengthy phone call, they told each other their life stories. As Ruth was sharing what she does and her passion to teach young people to choose the best by staying pure sexually. Ben realized that he needed to share with Ruth about his mom’s ministry. So, in the middle of the conversation, Ben blurted out “ you need to meet my mom! You have the same vision and passion.”
Ben recognized the heart of his own mom in a young woman. Consequently. I met Ruth and she ended up with me in a speaking ministry with Virtuous Reality. A modern Ruth was discovered by the son of a woman who wrote a book about Ruth ( Lady in waiting )! Ruth had never read my book, which totally shocked Ben, because Ruth lived the very principles that I wrote about.
A woman declares her heart even through a simple nod during a bible study. She also declares her heart when she shares what she is passionate about. To a boaz, a passionate heart is captivating in the way that a low-cut blouse is captivating to a Bozo! Boazes look for more than looks.
A side note: Most people are aware of the chapter in proverbs that describes the ideal womamn-the one my son referred to the chapter says, “ a wife of noble character wo can find? She is worth far more than rubies” (Prov 31:10). When I Started thinking about the ideal husband/man. I thought the description should start this way : “who can find a virtuous man? His price is far above diamonds!”
The Word of God has one chapter describing the virtuous woman- Proverbs 31- but I wonder if the preceding thirty
Chapters of proverbs do not describe the virtuous man. We could call the man worth waiting for a “proverbs 1-30 man.
Let’s look at him more closely next.
Discussion questions
1. How did you feel as you read Ruth’s story? How did you feel when you “met” boaz for the 1st time ? how does their story affect you today ?
2. What are your favorite qualities that a Boaz would embody?
3. Discuss the idea of a man’s handling a woman’s “baggage”. Is this an unrealistic expectation? Do you have any baggage ?
4. List a few verses from Proverbs that describe and ideal man
5. what encourages you to hold out for a Boaz?
Friday, September 3, 2010
1st sept 2010
yeah wonderful & awesome day at 1st sept 2010.
bermula dari teman kami bersahabat hingga hangout bareng pd tgl 1 sept kemarin.
pada awal perencanaan, akhirnya diputuskan hari rabu kita hangout, walau saat itu gw dgn nada sedikit tdk setuju "koq hangout hari biasa sich" , tapi beberapa hari sebelum hari H, gw pun harus ngebut pekerjaan2 supaya di hari rabu tsb bisa tidak terlalu byk kerjaan, dan meskipun pd hari Hnya tetap saja byk telpon yg nanya ini itu, untung aja gw udah hapal2in jadi bisa memberikan informasi yg ok kepada customer2ku
1 sept.
ahhh pas bgn pagi terasa bgt ada suatu hawa yg tidak sabar menunggu untuk bertemu tmen2 (kez,jez,dutz) and bener bgt hari itu gw udah di peringatin roy trus spy jgn sampai telattt..
dan gw jg udah nyalain 3 alarm, wa
h ternyata jem 5 subuhhh gw sudah kebangun >.< 9amfinally kita brangkat jam 9-an menuju ke rmh kez, bermodalkan sebuah peta yg ditanya oleh roy dan ingatan gw,ternyata kita baru tiba di rumah kez 2jem20menit sesudahnyaa,pdhal kez pernah blg dr kampuss ke rmh cmn 15 menit,ternyata entah brp x kita salah jalan yach T.T
.tapi dutsi & jess pasrah aja ,untung mobilnya gak ada argo,kalo gak entah brp ratus ribu yg hrs dikeluarkan :p
Keze' home
Setelah perjalanan panjang kitapun tiba di rmh keze, bertemu dgn om Fery yg lg membenerin ledeng.
Kitapun berjalan-jalan dirmh kez, lucu bgt si dutsi &jess gak mao pulanggg...bahkan jika diliat dr foto dikanan ini mereka ingin skali membawa plg smua brg2nya kez hahaha so funny.
Walau ada beberapa bagian yg tidak diperbolehkan untuk difoto ama kez -.-
Lalu kitapun mencari mkn siang disekitar bintaro,dan 3menit kemudian dr dlm mobil tiba2 seorg wanita berteriakk "kyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa..." Ternyata anak kecoa hinggap dikakinyaaaaaaa kezia...wakakakakakaka,untung gw sama dutsie and jess berani nginjek tu anak kecoa..haha kalo ngak bisa triak trs tuh anak.
Lalu sambil makan sambil foto2 dueh seperti biasanya :p Trs entah knp si jess tiba2 cemberuttt,ya untungny bkn ke gw..ternyata si roy godain si jess...haha maafin y jess.
Akhirnya si roy melihat kedua wanita yg rumahny jauh2 ini, dia bersedia anterin plg, and gw bersedia bgt nemenin,soalnya kebetulan kita ada meeting jem 8 malem.
Sayangny tmpat karoke tutup,padahal lg pada mao joget nich hehe,jdny kita balik deh kermh kez and ntn tv.
Dan jem 3 kamipun meninggalkan rmh kezia, dan tebak jam 5 40 kita baru tiba dirmh dutsie yg semestiny 1jem ditempuh..lalu hati gw and roy ga tnang bgt,krn dutsi dan jess ditelpon melulu oleh ortunya,apalg saat anterin jess,kita br tiba jem 7 20an..adduuhh maaf ya jes
s kebykan salah jalan -.-v Walau sijess smpat bt dijalan dan slalu blg gak keluar2 niiii dari tol...Tp hati gw senang bgt bs mengunjungi 3 rmh cewe in 1 day..roy pun curhat ke gw setelah mengantar jess plg...
Roy kira2 blg spt ini "broooo hari ini gw seneng bgt,tgl 1 sept gak akan pernah gw lupain,meskipun kaki gw pegel bgt,tp hati gw ga pernah sehappy ini"
Salut bgt gw ama Roy. hidup anak pendeta haha :p
thank you for jess,kezia,dutsi & bung roy..
Regards
Paulz
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Wedding plans
Blog ini kupersembahkan kepada juliana, yg memberi tugas padaku untuk membantu dia memberikan gambaran konsep wedding yg wonderful untuk pernikahanku nanti.
Hopes this help you, since my imagination very good for wedding plans :p Also I present this for my soulmate, karena segala sesuatu akan terjadi jika ada rencana.meskipun aku belum tahu siapa pasangan hidupku hahaha...I have big faith in God !!!
Ok kalau begitu saya mulai :
1.Pakaian
Yg pasti untuk saya pakaianny yg bergaya seperti pianis (yg jasny panjang dibelakang,pendek didpan) , aku rasa aku kan terlihat so gentle and handsome.. :D Untuk wanita aku suka pakaian yg tertutup dan elegant,krn kalao yg sedada pakaianny,kadang aku takut kalau copot...kyaaaaaaaaa bagian tsb kan hanya bole diliat sang suami heheh :p
2. tempat
Yg pasti aku suka tempat di outdoor,seperti didekat kolam renang, walaupun agak gerah ,tp kayany indah banget jika di poolside,apalagi tiap x aku perhatikan, tamu2 lebih suka di outdoor,lebih mantap untuk foto-foto hahah..
3. Acara
Pas nanti acara untuk penyerahan pengantin wanita kepada pria,aku mau menyanyikan lagu "because you loved me" kalao gak lagu yang lirik lagu zorro tuch, meskipun ga bs nyanyi,aku akan membuat moment yang gak bakal dilupain oleh my wife hehe..lalu setelah itu sang wanita membalas juga dengan nyanyian, baru setelah itu dilanjutkan dengan kiss sebentar :p. Mmm gak boleh lama-lama ditmpat umum HaHa Terus nanti kita berdua keliling tempat deh untuk sekedar formalitas dan bagi-bagi kue,dan mana tau ada yg mau foto bareng.
4. Pengapit
Mmm kalau pengapit kayany jgn pakai baju putih lagi dueh,soalny pengantin sudah warna putih,lebih baik warna dadu atau kuning, lalu pengapit ini nanti yang akan memberikan kesan pesan yang singkat mengenai hubungan sy and my wife. apalagi jika pengapitnya cantik-cantik kaya di foto hahaha pasti semakin mantap !!
5. Foods and beverages
Kayanya kalau untuk ini sich yang penting enak aja,gak terlalu masalah buat sy
6. Souvenir
Kalau suvenir aku penginny yang semacam buku kecil yg isinya ttg foto-foto perjalanan cinta me and my wife.
Pasti orang-orang bacanya penuh semangat tuh hehe.
Sekian dulu ya, ini garis besarnya aja..tapi masih banyak yang perlu ditambahkan,tapi masih belum ada gambarannya.
sebenarnya masih banyak nich,tapi sabar yach harus banyak dapat ide-ide dulu..
Hopes this help you, since my imagination very good for wedding plans :p Also I present this for my soulmate, karena segala sesuatu akan terjadi jika ada rencana.meskipun aku belum tahu siapa pasangan hidupku hahaha...I have big faith in God !!!
Ok kalau begitu saya mulai :
1.Pakaian
Yg pasti untuk saya pakaianny yg bergaya seperti pianis (yg jasny panjang dibelakang,pendek didpan) , aku rasa aku kan terlihat so gentle and handsome.. :D Untuk wanita aku suka pakaian yg tertutup dan elegant,krn kalao yg sedada pakaianny,kadang aku takut kalau copot...kyaaaaaaaaa bagian tsb kan hanya bole diliat sang suami heheh :p
2. tempat
Yg pasti aku suka tempat di outdoor,seperti didekat kolam renang, walaupun agak gerah ,tp kayany indah banget jika di poolside,apalagi tiap x aku perhatikan, tamu2 lebih suka di outdoor,lebih mantap untuk foto-foto hahah..
3. Acara
Pas nanti acara untuk penyerahan pengantin wanita kepada pria,aku mau menyanyikan lagu "because you loved me" kalao gak lagu yang lirik lagu zorro tuch, meskipun ga bs nyanyi,aku akan membuat moment yang gak bakal dilupain oleh my wife hehe..lalu setelah itu sang wanita membalas juga dengan nyanyian, baru setelah itu dilanjutkan dengan kiss sebentar :p. Mmm gak boleh lama-lama ditmpat umum HaHa Terus nanti kita berdua keliling tempat deh untuk sekedar formalitas dan bagi-bagi kue,dan mana tau ada yg mau foto bareng.
4. Pengapit
Mmm kalau pengapit kayany jgn pakai baju putih lagi dueh,soalny pengantin sudah warna putih,lebih baik warna dadu atau kuning, lalu pengapit ini nanti yang akan memberikan kesan pesan yang singkat mengenai hubungan sy and my wife. apalagi jika pengapitnya cantik-cantik kaya di foto hahaha pasti semakin mantap !!
5. Foods and beverages
Kayanya kalau untuk ini sich yang penting enak aja,gak terlalu masalah buat sy
6. Souvenir
Kalau suvenir aku penginny yang semacam buku kecil yg isinya ttg foto-foto perjalanan cinta me and my wife.
Pasti orang-orang bacanya penuh semangat tuh hehe.
Sekian dulu ya, ini garis besarnya aja..tapi masih banyak yang perlu ditambahkan,tapi masih belum ada gambarannya.
sebenarnya masih banyak nich,tapi sabar yach harus banyak dapat ide-ide dulu..
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
24th birthday party
Horayyyy!! merdeka !!
Hari ini tepat 17 agt indonesia merayakan ulang tahunnya, namun akupun tak mau kalah!!
tepat hari ini jam 12 siang akupun makan-makan bersama teman-teman cell & sepupu.
akupun berdoa sejak 2 minggu yang lalu untuk event ini, supaya semuanya bisa hadir.
(Lindian, Lidia, Victor, Maria, Diani, Devi, Danny, Stefy, Andy, Karel)
Dan ternyata semua sepupu saya pun hadir, kecuali ada beberapa teman yang tidak bisa hadir, namun sungguh itu ulang tahun yang terindah dalam 5 tahun belakangan ini.
aku tidak lupa itu semua hanyalah karena Favour of God upon me. i really thanks to God for this day. and i believe every day will be better again!
sejujurnya semenjak ketemu sepupu aku ini, aku sangat kaget, mereka semua berubah menjadi cantik-cantik & ganteng-ganteng..haha emang keturunan orang keren sich ya :p
Aku mengadakan upacara ulang tahun ini di The Nest. background restauranny cukup mantap, dan itu membuat mereka ini foto-foto terussss hahah :p
Kayanya sepupu-ku dan aku memang suka difoto kali yach. yes they very like it .HaHa..
I really love my family, dan mereka juga enak sekali diajak becanda, kayanya semua nyambung gitu haha..Semoga kita bisa sering-sering lagi ngumpul sebelum pada married,soalny kalau pada married pasti ada kegiatan sendiri dengan pasangan hahah apaan tuch ya :p.
Dan thanks juga buat temen-temen gereja yang datang, dan membantu untuk mengatur perayaan ini, dan mau mengenal saudara-saudara saya.
Ternyata mereka sudah mempersiapkan surprise buat saya..kyaaa tiba-tiba Victor dengan kue muncul dibelakang saya haha rada kaget juga, dan disuruh wish lagi, akhirnya dalam hati saya sebutin deh wish saya :
1. supaya saya bisa hidup menyenangkan hati Tuhan.
2. semakin akrab dengan keluarga besar, dan aku pernah bermimpi jika kita akan sama-sama ke gereja bareng, saling help each others.
3. semakin jago dalam bergaul, tahun ini saya mendapat teman baru sekitar 50 org lebih, dan aku aku berharap untuk next akan datang teman-teman yg lebih banyak lagi.
4. supaya si "doi" mau membuka hatinya untukku and memberikan aku kesempatan untuk mengenalnya *BLUSHING* hahaha
5. membeli ruko 3 lt didaerah ancol, jakarta.
thanks for all the gifts..really thanks :)
thanks to the Lord who gives me all blessings and favour,without You i'm nothing.
Aku percaya itu juga karena apa yang aku tabur dari sejak januari..hehe so banyak-banyaklah menabur,biar di hari ulang tahunmu kamu akan menerima tuaian yang buanyaaaakk sekali .AMIN
Thursday, July 8, 2010
She's a Rich Girl (Men's Best)
Somehow you got her to date you. She’s hot, she’s smart and she’s loaded. She’s a rich girl, banking and rolling with deep pockets. And then there’s your broke, Average Joe ass trying to keep up with Miss Moneybags. Now you know the truth -- that you can’t keep up with her. But she can’t find that out. No man wants to face that he’s completely outgunned by his rich girl. So, start taking notes, poor ass, because here are some tips on keeping a rich girl happy without spending money.
She's a rich girl, but you can still keep her happy...
Stay confident and don't be bitter
It doesn't cost anything to be the man. If you walk around with your head low and your back hunched, you’re going home alone. If she wants to foot the bill, hell, let her. If she wants to do things together that you can’t afford, be upfront about it. But never, ever slink like a beat puppy or be angry at her just because she has multiple zeroes on her paycheck and you just have a zero. If you lose your confidence, she’ll lose her attraction, and you’ll lose the girl.
Be romantic and creative
One of the most important ways you can avoid burning through cash is being romantic. Using your connections to hook up cool stuff like having a friend's band play at her birthday party, cooking for her or the age-old favorite of a candlelit dinner are all great ways to keep the green while dating a rich girl. What you're shooting for is to create experiences for her that others might not take the time and effort to arrange. She's a rich girl, which means she can buy herself fancy clothes and expensive jewelry, but she can’t give herself heartfelt moments that’ll make her melt.Be ambitious
She's a rich girl, which means she's probably surrounded by guys with money who are living off their daddies and sleeping until noon and then golfing all day. Show her that you have passion and plans for the future. Few things drive a woman wild like a man with ambition and drive. You may be a broke student now, but she should be able to see that if she invests her attention in you now, it won’t just lead to dead ends down the road. Women like to know that a man has a plan to be more and get more.Keep up your appearance
A fit, well-groomed man is something that doesn’t carry a price tag. You can’t compare bank accounts and you can’t take her around the world for lunch, but you can exercise and make sure you don’t look like crap. You can work out around the house or run outside without spending a dime. Even if you don’t have a brand new Armani wardrobe, you can look like you’re worth more than you really are (on paper.) Clothes will hang better on a toned body, and she’ll find you more attractive. If you already have looks on your side, use them to advantage.She's a rich girl, but you can still keep her happy...
Talk to her in a way others don’t
She comes from money and money means power. Little Miss Deep Pockets has been coddled, bowed down to and given the world on a silver platter. Sycophants don’t get laid, and they don’t make her happy. Forget how deep she rolls. Don’t be intimidated by her wealth. She’s flesh and blood like you. Don’t suck up to her and hold your own. Tell her like it is and treat her like you would any other person. Don’t overdo it and go out of your way to be a dick (you’re trying to keep this girl, right?). Be interesting, genuine and interested in her.Stay confident and don't be bitter
It doesn't cost anything to be the man. If you walk around with your head low and your back hunched, you’re going home alone. If she wants to foot the bill, hell, let her. If she wants to do things together that you can’t afford, be upfront about it. But never, ever slink like a beat puppy or be angry at her just because she has multiple zeroes on her paycheck and you just have a zero. If you lose your confidence, she’ll lose her attraction, and you’ll lose the girl.goin' with an uptown girl
Keeping any woman happy is damn near impossible. But near impossible is still possible. With the added burden of a fine thing that’s loaded, you’ve got another level of intimidation and difficulty. But man up and remember she’s just another girl. Confidence, ambition will mean more to her than any 401K, investment portfolio or bank account balance.
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